Keep going…that is something that those people who have it altogether say- maybe. I know I do not have it altogether and I am saying it. I am learning it is a process, to keep going. I have decided (it is that mind over matter concept) that I will push forward every single day, one step at a time.
Here’s a little back story — four years ago, I had just gone through another divorce, yes another divorce but I had my first house that I bought on my own, a new car, a good job, great friends, the put-together life that seemed perfect. One piece at a time, it started falling apart. I had health issues, my job was gone, but I met a new man that I moved in with me. Quickly after that, I sold my house (one that I had been so diligently remodeling to be all mine) and moved to Kentucky for “the fresh start”.
What happened in Kentucky was living in a small camper fighting to get jobs so we could pay bills that began to snowball. After 6 months, we moved home back to Louisiana. His mom let us move in her “farm house” at the lake which was great until we realized that winter was a nightmare with no central heat/air. The moral of this story is that even with all that going on, it was one step at a time. Bills were behind, we were fighting for jobs, we barely had groceries, and paying bills was a chore. Today, we are both working, we have a business which his mother runs (we continue to hold out hope that it will take off and be prosperous), and bills are starting to be paid and caught up. We even bought a house back in the summer (see my home improvement page for the remodel). It was not overnight and it has been a struggle. Our relationship has been tested time and time again. Through all the trials, we just kept going. Some days, I was depressed and cried; some days, he was depressed and slept all day. It was a toll that I hope I never have to endure again.
Mind over matter! Tell yourself every single day that it will be better. Kind of a fake-it-till-you-make-it mentality. I have been at the bottom and even though I am not completely back on top of my game, I am much better off. So, keep smiling, keep trying, and do not beat yourself up when you have a bad day. Start over and try again the next day. Just “KEEP GOING”.